The concept of Superwoman although interesting and poetic isn’t realistic.
As women today, we believe that we have to be and do all for everyone around us. Our kids and our families are our number one priority and we are a distant last if we even make the list.
When it comes to all the things you have to do and all the people you need to serve; are you being served?
More importantly, are you serving yourself? The answer is probably not and if it is probably not, and you feel guilt about adding yourself to the list- this is for you!
Women are serving themselves last, if at all, and are feeling massive guilt about it. But the truth is you are a priority. And you should be the number one priority. Because without you, your household is incomplete. Without you things won’t move cohesively, so you and the role you play is important.
I attended a funeral recently and the siblings were discussing who would take over the role of being the glue that held the family together. Know that you are the glue that holds your family together.
We are natural nurturers, even women who aren’t mothers are nurturing, caring and loving. We tend to take care of everyone around us, making sure everyone is OK. We also, take on problems that do not belong to us because we want to help. We want to be the fixer, the pleaser, the doer.
But we need to realize that we can’t do it all! It’s impossible to be a Superwoman.
We can only do what we can do. Trying to do more and pushing yourself beyond your limits leads to burnout, exhaustion, stress, depression and worse.
If you drive your car with no gas it’s going to shut down and if you’ve been running yourself down without taking care of you or being taken care of you will eventually shut down too.
I often hear people say this is selfish. This is not selfish. This is self-full. It’s about ensuring that you are at your best, so you can be and serve at your best in all areas of your life. This is about you knowing that you have to give to yourself before you can give of yourself.
Times have changed. We aren’t just in the home, cooking, cleaning and rearing children anymore. We’ve added to our job descriptions. We are employees, CEO’s, Entrepreneurs,
Founders, Activists, Philanthropists all while still running homes, taking care of children and being support to our friends and family.
Give yourself permission to stop trying to be Superwoman and remove the cape. Know that you are enough as you are, perfect as you are, doing the best you can as you are.
Post in the comments and let me know how you will be removing your cape.
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