Six R’s to Self-Love

While going through my memories on Facebook earlier this morning, I saw a post I created a year ago today that inspired this blog post.
I woke up one year ago today and heard reduce, reuse, recycle. And it made me think of our self-love practice. When it comes to self-love it’s a lot of uncovering. We are constantly peeling back our layers and as we evolve, we learn to accept, understand and embrace ourselves.
It takes time to peel back these layers and begin to uncover all that is you. And it’s a process that takes compassion towards ourselves. But in order to peel back those layers we need to reflect on our life, who we are and stock of our pain.This is where it can get really uncomfortable but we need to be aware of what’s going on internally. We can’t grow if we aren’t aware of the areas that are inhibiting our growth. Through this process of reflection, identify what’s no longer serving you and holding you back from living the life you desire that’s full of joy and happiness.
Once we’ve become aware through the reflection process of what’s holding us back and the pain that we are holding on to, we need to let it go. We need to reduce the amount of pain that has become our baggage. “P.A.I.N. Pay Attention Inward Now! – Iyanla Vanzant” Our pain is our comfort blanket and we use it to keep people away or at a safe distance and build protective walls over our hearts. When we feel like our defenses are being penetrated we go into fight or flight mode. You may have discovered in the reflection process that you have more pain than you’ve realized and some of that pain you may not be fully ready to let go of. And that’s okay. The key here is not dropping all the baggage at one time if you aren’t comfortable it’s about reducing it in steps that you are comfortable with. In reducing the amount of baggage that we are carrying we are taking back our power – taking back our control. Give yourself a break and let go of what you feel comfortable letting go of today and what you aren’t yet ready to release leave it for another day.
As you may have realized during the reflection step that not everything in your life has been painful. While our pain is holding us back not everything in our life has been all bad. There are memories, events and experiences that we’ve had that have brought us joy and love and made us happy. It’s these memories that we need to hold onto and reuse as often as possible. The journey of self-love can be hard on us emotionally; we may have avoided it for so long that once we starting digging, we’d rather avoid it all together. But running away isn’t doing us any good and quite honestly running away from it is what got us to this point. During this process you may need reminders of who you are deep down- the kind, loving, caring, friendly person you are. Gather up all the evidence of what makes you who you are and reuse it on a daily basis. I have even taken this a step further and created a self-love box. Every nice thing that is ever said about me goes in there, whether it’s a compliment, appreciation or comment on my character. I take it and tuck it away in my self-love box, so on the days that I don’t feel so great, I can open that box and read about how awesome I am. When we are hurt and damaged we can become a product of that pain, but we must realize, that’s not all we are. We are happiness, we are joy, we are fulfilled. Find all the memories that accentuate happiness and reuse them as often as you can to remind yourself who you really are.
Once you have reflected, reduced and reused now is the time to recycle. It’s the time to recycle all you are ready to let go of by releasing it to the Divine. Now some people may use the word Divine, Spirit, God, Creator, Universe. When I use Divine I mean all the above, swap out the word Divine for the word you are most comfortable using. By releasing it we are giving up control, putting our trust in the and allowing the Divine to do what it will. The Divine wants to help us but will only do so once we ask. Allow the Divine to help and support you in recycling what no longer serves you,taking it back to the earth to be renewed and made into positive energy. As you release the pain and emotional baggage that’s held you back from living, be grateful. Express gratitude for all that you have uncovered and released. The work that you’ve done should be celebrated.
Rinse and Repeat.
I hope that this has served you well. As a recap here’s what we discussed.
Reflect on your life, who you are and take stock of your painReduce the emotional baggage you are holding toReuse the good memories and experiences you’ve had in your life to bring you joyRecycle and give it to the Divine for it to be transmutedCelebrate yourself for all the work you’ve done
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